The first thing I have learnt is that we have to be able to identify our core competencies and our weaknesses. identify your core competency and then change the playing field to suityour core competency., if you are a good speaker, make sureyou create opportunities to give presentations that enable the senior managementto notice you. If your strength is analysis, make sure you do some sort ofresearch, make a report and send it upstairs. Working to your strengths will notonly get you noticed, but will also create opportunities for growth andadvancement. but always remember “ ability without dependability is a liability.”
The second lesson I have learnt is that nothing in this life is permanent but change. There is only one person who likes a change: the wet baby. Change is an ongoing fact of life. It changes us as we have to move away from our “ zone of comfort” and makes our life difficult for a while. Change brings with it a lot of stress as our paradigms are constantly being challenged. To bring about a change one has to change the “BAT”.
BEHAVIOUR
ATTITUDE
THINKING.
ATTITIUDE: are changes that happen from within oneself.
One has to take responsibility for
What one is
What one does
What one has
The only thing that is truly yours -- that no one can control or take from you- is your attitude, so if you can take care of that, everything else in life becomes much easier.
THINKING: comes from “logically” observing every situation in life.
One has to manage “self talk”. You think you can or cannot you are right. Positive thinking with" effort” increases the probability of success. Negative thinking with “effort” decreases the probability of success. Positive thinking backed with positive actions comes with positive believing. If u believe u cannot do it then you do justify that you cant do it & vice versa. You have two choices –either you think you can do it or you think you cannot do it.
The third lesson I have learnt is whatever goes up has to come down and this is cyclic in nature.
Life has many challenging situations . You win some and lose some. You enjoy winning. But do not let it go to the head. The moment it does, you are already on your way to failure. And if you do encounter failure along the way, treat it as an equally natural phenomenon. Don’t beat yourself for it or any one else for that matter! Accept it, look at your own share in the problem and learn from it .The important thing is, when you lose, do not lose the lesson or the moral of the story.
The fourth lesson I learnt is that we must always strive for perfection. In our quest for perfection we end up in achieving excellence. One way of achieving excellence is by looking at those individuals much better than ourselves. Keep learning what they do differently, why they do it and why is it ,what they do?. Emulate it and bring into every day situations these different effective methods.
The fifth lesson I have learnt is to have a” never say die approach in times of adversities It comes on you suddenly without warning and surely without an announcement. .we must remember that “tough times don’t last but tough men do”. it is only the test of fire that makes fine steel. My 5 year old daughter taught me an important thing . I was playing Captain Claw on the computer and despite my very best effort ,could not beat La Roca so I shut down the game. I did this at least 3 times in half an hour. I told myself in a loud and irritating tone of voice "Look, why don’t you just give up? I don’t think you will beat him tonight. Look at it another day." The daughter looked with a strange look in her eyes, "But, dad, why should you give up? All the weapons are available you have just got to use them effectively " If we try hard & long enough, we can put any problem into its perspective. Sometimes we have to work very hard ,sometimes we need to change the strategy and some times we need a combination of both. But it is our attitude which will sail us through these adversities.
The sixth lesson I have learnt is leadership is not a popularity contest. As a matter of fact parenting teaching and leadership are not popularity contests. It is hard enough for leaders to take out what is left in individuals. A true leader will gauge the individual before he tries to put in anything because beyond a certain point it is worthless trying to put in and mould an individual.
And this goes on
